We believe you will really enjoy our next speaker Patrick McMillan. Patrick is the author of, The Science of Happy Kids and Joyful Parenting™. He is a children’s motivational speaker and subject matter expert in childhood emotional development. Patrick is the co-founder of HappierKidsNow. com and the founder of Kids Can Do Anything and An Exercise in Happiness™, an interactive emotional fitness program for children. Patrick is an active member of The International Positive Psychology Association and The National Association for Self Esteem, though his passion stems from being a stay at home dad since 2001.
Patrick says, “A child’s daily quest is to be happy, though for so many kids, this can prove to be an uphill journey. ” Patrick has committed his life to helping kids create for themselves the kind of life they want and deserve, and give parents and teachers the tools to take action in helping their kids in their daily pursuit of happiness.
When you meet Patrick you will quickly realize his passion and enthusiasm for helping kids succeed at finding and living a life of happiness, and empowering them with life long skills. Like you, Patrick has experienced separation and divorce. He knows what it is like as a parent to worry about how divorce would impact his children.
In today’s world of technology there are a number of resources that can benefit separating, divorcing or divorced parents. Pam and I wanted to take one session of the Telesummit to share two technology related resources with you; Our Family Wizard website and Life Journal software.
Our Family Wizard
First, we would like to introduce Jai Kissoon the CEO and one of the original founders of the OurFamilyWizard website. The OurFamilyWizard website was created to help reduce or remove conflict between separated or divorced parents. The website is designed to help empower families to help themselves.
Using Our Family Wizard can reduce divorce conflict and remove the “he said/she said” that keeps families returning to court over joint custody and co-parenting issues. The Our Family Wizard website helps reduce the face-to-face contact between high-conflict parents. In fact, courts across the USA and Canada have ordered usage of the site in contested cases and found it to be a very effective tool and solution for high conflict parents.
Kicking off the second week of the Divorced Parent Telesummit is another incredible expert, Dorcy Russell. Dorcy is the Founder and CEO of Conscious Co-Parenting Institute. She is a reunification Coach and co-parent educator. She has devoted her career to providing strategies and solutions for parenting after divorce – especially in situations of Parental Alienation and high conflict divorce. She has developed a unique co-parenting course that can be used by all families. Dorcy encourages all parents to accept responsibility for their actions in high-conflict situations and encourages her clients to apologize when appropriate and have compassion. She has a lot to tell us about Parental Alienation and other high-conflict families and how to break the bad communication patterns with your difficult ex.
Dorcy’s goal is to help establish custody plans and co-parenting roles that encourage positive relationships between Read More Here…
For many divorced co-parents there is still alot of anger, distrust and ill-will. This makes face-to-face communication difficult or impossible. What often begins as a rational conversation quickly dissolves into recrimination and argument. Obviously this makes co-parenting extremely difficult. The key is to return the conversation to a more neutral framework., but this can also be a difficult task. Moving from theory to reality, here are five tips for co-parent communication:
1. Stop the discussion whenever it goes off-topic and strays from the children’s needs. Respectfully disengage or bring the conversation back to the topic immediately.
2. Email and text messaging can help keep the emotional element out of communication. Communicating at arms length is sometimes easier than face-to-face. Communicate facts for the issue that needs to be resolved.
3. Even if your communication is civil when you are face-to-face and you two can stay on topic, it can be a good idea to follow up with an email or text message to confirm details. It is surprising how often Read More Here…
Here are some common divorced parent communication issues that arise after divorce. You may need to communicate with your ex-spouse about these areas at some point:
- Negative remarks about your spouse – Kids pick up on negativity even when it is not verbalized pointblank. Negative remarks, no matter how offhanded or subtle you think they are, can cloud how children feel about their mom or dad. Kids feel like they are choosing sides if they show love to the ‘bad’ parent. That is not what you want for your kids or for the relationship they will have with their other parent for the rest of their life.Your children innately know that they are part of both of you.Your children should be able to love both parents equally. Just as you love your children unconditionally, let your children do the same with you – and with their other parent. Work out any rancor toward your ex-spouse Read More Here…
Here’s some more information from Alyssa Johnson about navigating the summer with kids after divorce.
Parents – Summer is Coming! How Do You Want to Spend it With Your Kids?
Summer’s almost here, so I’m already trying to plan for how that will change “the schedule.” I caught myself beginning to stress about it and then realized, I’ve got a Read More Here…