Since the kids are back in school, parent-teacher conferences and open houses are sure to follow. That’s why we wanted to bring you this back to school co-parenting tip from R.J. Jaramillo, one of our Divorced Parent Telesummit speakers in 2011.
Back to School for Single Parents
Basically this back to school tip is for Dads who are newly transitioning into single parenting. They are typically new at the role of sharing the times to going to the child’s school and interacting with the students and the teachers on those back to school days. The single parent is going to have to be more active and play a more active role and involvement with the child’s school so the first reminder is that every single parent needs to know that your child wants to have a smooth transition just like you do and they want you present. Getting back to a level of normalcy is such a priority when you’re going back to school as a newly divorced single parent. So the key here is very simple: be present as much as you can with your child’s school activities, get involved and know your child’s teacher as well as having the teacher know who you are.
One of the quick tips that is very simple to do is design your own, I’m going to use the words “business cards.” The idea is to create a business card to hand to the child’s teacher, even the other parents in your child’s class. Let them know your contact information. A photo of you and your child on the card and on the other side make sure you list your email, phone number.
Believe it or not many times teachers just assume that they have only one set of information to know about each child, so many times the co-parenting relationship slips through the cracks. That means only one parent gets the homework assignments and one parent gets the emails about the upcoming events. So when you’re child is going back to school create a business card that has a little bit of information about you and your child so that the teacher and school know that your child has two households.
I think that it’s a very easy and effective tool to use. Most computer software has an ability to make a business card; it doesn’t take a lot of effort or technology to make one. That’s something that can be done very quickly and easily. So that’s the tip for the day in regards for going back to school as a newly divorced single parent going through that transition- the business card.